It’s odd how much can change in a month. Who would’ve ever thought most of us would be stuck at home working because of the current pandemic? It hasn’t been that much of a change for me, other than the fact there are now three other people in the house with me. I’m used to having the entire house to myself during the day when I write. To say there has been some adjustment is an understatement. But, change is always a part of life. The only thing to do is embrace it and see what happens.
The last couple of months I talked about products I’ve gotten in my self-care journey. I’m not doing that this time. However, the importance of self-care is never so much as it is now. Some of us have spouses or significant others working from home with us. Some of us have teenagers doing school online (or supposed to be doing school). Others have younger kids where they’re having to help them with the school work (my heart goes out to you, because I couldn’t do it). Some have other family staying with them during all of this as well. And even more of us have children, parents, siblings, etc NOT with us that puts an entirely different kind of stress upon us.
We live week-to-week now, wondering if things could go back to normal sooner than we’d hoped. Only to hear that things are slightly worse. It’s our new normal. I hope all of you are holding up okay. It isn’t easy. For two weeks I thought I was managing fine. Turns out I was wrong. I had to go into my closet the other day and just sit. I realized then that while I am okay with change and realize there isn’t anything I can do against it, I still needed to care for me. I was neglecting myself while making sure everyone else was doing okay. That’s where I went wrong. Yes, I went and had myself a good cry to get all the stress/emotion/anxiety out that I’d been holding back.
It was a hard slap in the face that as the weeks progress and we’re essentially homebound with people that we need to respect ourselves and our needs, as well as others. That means take the time to yourself. Be it in the closet, alone in the bedroom, or maybe an hour soaking in the tub with some candles and music. Do what you need to do every single day to keep you mentally and emotionally there for yourself and others. Because people will turn to us. We can’t help them if we aren’t helping ourselves.
We’ve all been – and are going to be – affected in one way or another in this pandemic. Whether it’s financially, emotionally, or physically. Let’s remember to practice patience and kindness. It’s not always easy, I know. I believe that this is a reset button for the world to stop focusing on everything else – work, bills, texts, etc. It’s a time to spend it with family and loved ones in the house with you. To get back to nature, to breathe in fresh air, play board/card/video games with the kids/others, to binge movies we’ve all put off, to bake cookies or make jello with the kids. To get to that huge stack of books we keep buying. To take those long bubble baths with a glass of wine and a book, to remember to care for ourselves as much as we always do others.
Whether you’re the kind of person who uses this time to deep clean the house, organize everything, burn through all the books you never thought you’d be able to get to – and buy more, or just relax on the couch and have long conversations with others, this is the time to do it.
It’s easy to get caught up in the worry about getting essentials, having money to pay for bills, or everything else. But be sure not to let that completely take hold of you. It’s happening to everyone. Somehow, someway, this will work out.
Just remember that you aren’t alone. You don’t have to carry the weight of everything yourself. That you’re stronger than you know, and that there are others who are here if you need them. And more than anything, please take the time to yourself.