Self-Care Journey Month 28


Happy May!

Goodness, but this year is flying quickly. Like most people, there are a lot of changes going on in my life. Some I instigated, some I haven’t. I’ve talked about change before, but it’s one of those things that I think we need to recognize, appreciate, and welcome. Yes, welcome.

In all the times there has been an upheaval in my life, the end result has always led me to something bigger or better or both! Every. Single. Time. I might not recognize it at first. I might even think that I’ve hit rock bottom, but the Universe has a way of taking things out of our hands. Twice, I’ve resisted some really HUGE changes, and twice, the Universe gave me ample opportunities to recognize what I needed to do. And twice, the Universe took over when I didn’t take those steps.

Now, two times isn’t such a big number, but those were some massive changes, changes that I wasn’t ready for or didn’t want. I’ve learned that if I can recognize that something needs to change and actually take the step, then things go so much smoother. I’ve discovered (the very, very hard way) that it’s going to happen regardless. Ignoring it or lying to myself does nothing but hurt me. Seeing the change and accepting it is a part of growing. It’s about understanding that things might be tough for a bit, but I’ll come out better on the other side. It’s about listening to me, to my soul, who is always there to guide me—should I so choose to listen.

I admit that there have been times in my life when I didn’t listen. I would resist (read: actively work against) the change I saw coming, because I thought I knew better. I imagine that the Universe laughed at my meager attempt and did what had to be done. We’re here to learn, to experience new things. We can’t always do that if we stay in the same rut we’ve been in. That rut might be comfortable, it might be something that we think soothes us, but it isn’t. How can your soul grow, how can you learn all the things you’ve yet to experience in this life if you don’t take the not-so-subtle hints the Universe is sending you?

When was the last time you asked yourself if you were happy? I don’t mean content, I mean truly, utterly happy? Where everything seems to have fallen into place? That doesn’t mean you don’t have bills or problems. No life is perfect, but it’s about finding that light inside you. Look deep inside yourself, listen to that voice that’s always in your head or your gut, hear what it’s trying (or screaming) to tell you. The things you need and want and don’t even realize you need or want are all there. When you start to listen to your soul, when you open up to all possibilities that the Universe holds for you, you find yourself on a journey that can lead you to that utter, true, complete happiness I spoke about.

Once you get a taste of it, you never forget it. You seek it in everything. That’s not to say there won’t be bumps in the road, because anything great has to be worked for. So you keep striving for it, and you discover that you’re growing and experiencing and you want more, so much more.

It has been, without a doubt, one of the best self-care, self-love, and self-respectful things I’ve done on my journey. Even on my worst day (because, seriously, we all have those), I can sit in silence with my animals, surrounded by my plants, and simply be—all with a smile and a happy, full heart. Because I’ve learned what makes my soul sing. I’m not nearly finished though. Like I said, once you get a taste of it, you want to know what else is out there, what other adventures you can have, and that leads you to ask the Universe to keep delivering.

And it does!

Until next month, I leave you with an awesome song by the Foo Fighters!






“A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.”

~ Lao Tzu



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  1. Nicole McGillicuddy on May 6, 2022 at 11:13 am

    What Donna said about the universe putting things right and finding that light inside of you is so true! Ever since I got a divorce, my light continues to shine brighter and brighter. It’s amazing what you can become when you are away from all the toxicity or people telling you that you’re not good enough. We’re all better than “good enough” and especially women are way stronger than they think they are!

    • Donna on May 7, 2022 at 5:00 pm

      Well said, Nicole!

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